I write, with thanks at the invitation and
honor that Eolia has extended for me, to share my thoughts on how my family
celebrates the traditions of Christmas as an American family living
overseas.
Probably for most of us, whatever your
family tradition, whatever your religion or culture, those traditions and
memories that we experienced as a child play heavily into those we later create
as an adult with our own families. Like many adults and children today, the
memories I have as a child of Christmas time are special ones to me. They consist of the thrill of waking up
Christmas morning, having entertained for weeks, days and hours what Santa
might have brought me, and I am unable to contain my suspense as the hours draw
near. Opening up my Christmas stocking, going
through each little present patiently wrapped, prolonging my thrill and
excitement for what is within. Then
sharing in the thrill of our mutual morning boon together with my brother Aaron
Manahi. The fact that there was a tree
in the living room, under which held yet more treasures to be discovered made
the day all the more exciting!
As the morning progressed, after the
stockings had been gleefully torn through, we reveled in the festive mood
offered by the Christmas classics playing all afternoon as it wafted through
the house, along with the wassail on the stove while my mother began the
makings of what would become a delicious Christmas dinner later that
afternoon. The morning festivities would
culminate with our gathering around the Christmas tree, opening with a prayer
and reading scripture, about the divine birth of Christ and his mission on this
earth as found in the Book of Luke. Then
of course, we would dive headlong into the Opening of The Presents. My brother, as the youngest, would choose a
gift from under the tree, and one at a time would take a gift from the tree to
hand to each of us so we could all take turns watching one another open our
gifts. All very exciting, however too
late for my brother, who, well into adulthood, lamented the fact that we didn’t
just roll out of bed and head straight for the presents! Just as well we grow up and create our own
traditions!
Christmas in our family began on Christmas
Day. The weeks preceding it were all the
build up to the Big Day: The shopping trips, the caroling with friends and
visits to retirement homes. My mother
would spend hours baking goodies beforehand, making up beautiful Christmas
plates which, as was our family tradition, on Christmas Eve, we would drive
around to family friends, delivering these plates, stepping into their homes
for even a moment to enjoy their festive Christmas traditions. This opportunity always offered me a
wonderful insight into the many ways that Christmas can be celebrated and
enjoyed in the homes of our closest and dearest friends.
Since our departure from the US in 2007,
our family of five has travelled and lived in 3 countries: first Ireland, then
France and now currently, Singapore. Over
these years, the traditions we’ve created have come about mostly by necessity
as much as anything else, and often has changed depending on the country we’ve
been in at the time. We’ve learned to
adapt to our changing environment. Probably
the greatest advantage to maintaining Christmas tradition across continents and
languages has been the fact that our faith has been at the core of how we
celebrate Christmas, and this has been a blessed constant.
There are no frills in our overseas life
when it comes to Christmas. It has been
with conscious effort that Christmas gifts, decorations and meals be simple,
often hand made and are not so overdone so as to detract from the true purpose.
I have considered this a gift. Probably
the only imperative, including making sure the ornaments and stockings are
included in each move, is the Christmas tree.
In each country so far, we have A Story of Getting the Christmas Tree.
As an example, in Ireland, we lived in County
Wicklow. We discovered on our daily route
to school, a Christmas Tree farm. We
wound up getting the most fabulous Christmas tree that was grown right on the
land it was sold on. While we didn’t cut
it down ourselves, we relished the fact that it was not shipped in from
somewhere else and that we bought it from the guy who grew it and lived right
there! We buy what gifts we can, if
local then all the better. That aside, true
confessions, Amazon or Shutterfly has been a life-line to getting gifts to
family back home and a boon to the life of an expat. No matter where we are
however, for us the focal point of the Christmas season is a celebration of the
birth of our Savior Jesus Christ. As
members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, Christ is central
to our belief.
Strictly speaking, you could call Christmas
a birthday party, though for us it is far more. We’ve carried on my family’s tradition of
reading the same scriptures, before diving into the presents, we fill stockings
with little wrapped gifts, which the children open first thing in the morning,
and, ode to my brother’s childhood wish, we do go straight to the presents in
the morning while the kids are still in pajamas, often not having even eaten
breakfast! To emphasize the point, it’s
all about maintaining the Spirit of the Season.
We ebb and flow with the tradition and strive always to maintain the
happiness.
In the course of writing this piece, I
asked my children what have been some of their favorite Christmas traditions
and memories. Interestingly, they each
replied the same way: waking up and not being able to see the tree with all the
presents under it until they all walk in together to share in the excitement, the
tree in all it’s Christmas glory; as well as The Christmas Elf: the tradition
of the youngest handing out the presents.
I’ve no idea where the name The Christmas Elf came from, but it works
for them and I’m happy to keep it.
As parents today living overseas, our
choices with regard to the Christmas season are one of evolution. I have learned that we cannot hold on too
tightly to what should be. Of primary
importance, particularly to my husband, is that peace and love override any and
all stress that can and easily does ensue.
Beyond that, making sure that the tree will be ripe with presents on
Christmas morning, and enjoying the spirit of the Christmas season - is a
bonus! The simplicity of this goal, the
drive to be together, to play games and celebrate our love as a family: these
are the traditions that I relish and hope to renew every year.
Natasha is a mother of three (two amazing boys and a beautiful/smart girl in between),
born in Oregon, USA, who have followed her College/ MBA Teacher of husband
in his working peregrinations. Currently living in Singapore,
she tries to stay true to her heritage and her love of the wonders of the world.